Anger management issues are not uncommon during the teenage years. In fact, SafeYouth, a resource for at-risk teenagers and their families, found that one in three adolescents has been involved in some sort of fight or violent act. Helping your teenager with his anger can help him learn how to deal with issues on his own. Recognizing anger issues is the first step in managing and controlling them. ListeningJust listening to your teenager when she is angry can provide her with an outlook to calm her down and examine the issues. It is important that you not judge or devalue what she is angry about. Try to empathize and lead her toward the root of the issue. Let your teen know that it is OK to be angry and upset but outlining acceptable ways to express her anger is important. Making your teenager feel secure that you will listen when she needs to talk about her anger is key.Dealing with the AngerOnce your teenager becomes angry, he often does not now know how to safely or even constructively channel that aggression. Help him first recognize the trigger of his anger and then develop some routines or techniques to relax and regain his composure. Once he becomes angry, your teenager may have a problem calming himself. Suggest techniques such as taking deep breaths when he realizes he is angry can help. Closing his eyes and visualizing a different place or person could also distract him from the situation.Eliminating the Anger
Listening and dealing with the anger is just the beginning of the solution. Finding a way to eliminate the issues that trigger the anger should be the ultimate goal. To determine this, be aware of the triggers and help your teenager determine other alternatives to being in situations in which her anger is triggered. Speaking with a counselor or a mental health professional may be required.